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The Do’s and Don’t’s of Sorority Recruitment

Being a sophomore, I’ve had experience on both the PNM’s(potential new member) side and the recruiter’s side. I’ve seen so many instances where girls say or do the wrong thing, and it negatively impacted their chances of getting a bid. If you’re planning on going out for recruitment, read these important dos and don’ts!


  • Get LOTS of sleep. Most schools require you to wake up at such early hours for recruitment, to spend literally all day talking to girls. Make sure you get as much sleep as you can, and fill up on coffee so you can be the most energetic version of yourself! No one wants to talk to you if you’re yawning throughout the conversations.
  • Keep a smile on your face. Okay, not one of those obnoxious cheesy grins, but keep a pleasant, happy look on your face. I am definitely one to struggle with RBF(don’t we all), so I definitely had to consciously¬†make sure that I wasn’t staring at the girl I was talking to like I wanted to rip her face of. Houses look for girls who look nice and are excited about being there! Nothing gives off bad vibes like RBF.
  • Ask lots of questions. Sororities look for girls who are genuinely interested in what they do! Ask all about their philanthropy, why they chose that sorority, or what is their favorite event that they put on. The list could go on and on.
  • Respond well to questions. This is my biggest pet peeve when I’m recruiting girls. Nothing sucks more than when you’re talking to a girl who doesn’t know how to keep the conversation going. If you’re asked a question, don’t respond with just “yes” or “no”, elaborate on everything! We wanna know all about your life and love to hear you talk about anything that interests you!
  • Tell them how much you love them. If you love them, be open with it! Tell them how much you love their philanthropies or how you feel like you connect so well with those girls. We would love to know if the feeling’s mutual.
  • Keep your social media clean. I’m gonna tell you a secret- we stalk, and we stalk hard. If you have pictures up on your Instagram of you drunk, holding three beers in your hands, we will see it and trust me it won’t help you get a bid.
  • Be yourself. This is pretty much a given, but really be your true self! I always look for genuine girls that are gonna be real sisters to me. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, or change yourself to fit in with a certain sorority. Just trust the process and you’ll find your home.


  • Mention any other sorority. This is a big no-no in the world of recruitment. Like, I’m talking you will most likely get dropped. You’re there to talk about that sorority, and that sorority only!
  • Trash talk. No one wants to give a girl a bid who trash talks others right from the get-go. Houses want to recruit girls that are nice and are gonna be great sisters, not girls who can trash talk their best friend to just about anybody.
  • Curse. Stay classy! Keep your potty mouth shut until you’ve got a bid- recruitment is a formal process!
  • Talk about any frats/ drinking. Again, stay classy. This is a big no-no that gets girls dropped from houses left and right. Don’t ask about frat relations or mention your crazy night out this past weekend.
  • Touch your phone. That right there is pretty much an immediate drop in my book. Talk about disinterest! Even if it’s not your favorite house, suck it up and just be respectful!
  • Dress inappropriately. Again, this is a formal event! Keep the cleavage and skin-tight dresses for your night out. You’re trying to impress girls, not a bunch of frat boys.
  • Be afraid to talk to your recruitment counselor. They’re there to help you through this though time! Mine was always there for me when I needed to vent about houses and make my final decision. I don’t know what I would have done without her.

I know it all seems scary and a lot to remember, but the main thing is to just relax! Everyone you’re talking to has gone through the process themselves and knows how nerve wracking it can be. Just remember, they’re all just normal people and you’re really there to just have good conversations and to get to know them. Don’t stress out. Trust the process!

*Disclaimer* In no way am I saying that if you follow this advice you are ensured a bid. I am not responsible for anything that happens during your recruitment process, nor the outcome of your recruitment process.

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