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Misery Loves Company

We’ve all heard this quote before, but what does it actually mean? We all want to be successful, but do we have what it takes? As my dad always says, there are three types of people: Those who make things happen, those who watch things happen, and those who say “what the hell just happened?”. There are leaders and there are followers in this world, but then there are the ones that are gonna want to bring you down. See, it’s always lonely at the top, and this is something you need to be okay with to be successful.

There’s this thing called jealously. It can make people turn evil, and from this I’ve seen people do some ruthless things. This is when the quote “misery loves company” comes into play. Let’s say you’re starting your own company. You are so ardent about it and have all of the skills to grow this company into something huge. As time goes on, your company grows immensely with your constant hard work and passion that you put into it. Your friend over here (let’s call her Nancy because she’s our negative Nancy in this example) has tried to start a company countless times, and it just hasn’t worked out for her. She sees how well you’re doing, and rather than being thrilled for you, she gets jealous. Nancy doesn’t want to bring you up and encourage you, she wants to bring you down to her level. She’s miserable, and no one wants to be miserable alone- it’s just human nature.

As you get more and more successful in life, you’re gonna see this start to happen. People are going to be resentful towards you. It’s just a fact. Whether they failed at doing it themselves or they just don’t want to put in the hard work that you do, they are going to try to drag you down to their level of misery so they feel better about themselves. Being successful does mean you will most likely lose some friends, but honestly if they’re the type of person that doesn’t want to push you to be a better person, then let them go!

I first noticed this happen to me in high school. Freshman year I was OBSESSED with all things fashion and makeup- and I still am. I was truly passionate about it. I had watched Youtubers for years and finally decided to make a channel of my own. I was so worried about what people thought, that I kept it a secret from everyone I knew. I was having so much fun with it and actually started to get a good following from it. That was when everyone at my school found out about it. Instead of telling me what a great job I was doing, everyone started to make fun of me. It got so bad that I eventually stopped making videos. I let them get to me, when in reality they were just jealous that they didn’t have the same success as me. They wanted to bring me down so that they couldn’t say that anyone was more successful than them. They could have put the work in themselves, but it’s so much easier to bring people down than to build yourself up.

I regret stopping my videos so much. I imagine how successful I could be, and I’m so frustrated I let others keep me from reaching my goals. Misery loves company, and you need to decide if you’re going to be that company, or if you’re going to be alone at the top, being satisfied with what you’re doing in life.

I am so blessed to be living the life that I am. I recognize that not everyone gets to expect dinner on the table every night or has a house to live in, and you’ll never hear me judging people for the way that they live or the income that they make. What I have seen happen is people like to make fun of the rich, as if it were something to be embarrassed of. Apparently if your parents work hard to make a living you get made fun of?

I was so thankful that my parents were able to buy me a car- never once did I brag about it. However people made fun of me for having it. People are miserable, and want you to be miserable with them. Just because their parents cannot buy them a car(which is perfectly okay) means that they can bring me down for my parents buying me a car? That is something I will never understand, but I will NEVER let someone bring me down for working hard and being successful ever again.

I never want to live a life of regret. I am a leader, and I refuse to let anyone bring me down out of jealously. That is the line between being successful and not being successful. You can either let life happen to you, or you can grab life by the horns and make things happen. It’s all up to you, so stop feeling miserable or sorry for yourself! Don’t be the company that the misery is begging for.

6 Comments

  1. This is so true! I’m always on the look out for a true friend that loves you no matter what! Stay focused and success is yours I say! Thanks Julia!!

    1. admin says:

      Of course! Glad you enjoyed!

  2. Good points. It’s always so much better to lift people up and encourage them than to try and pull them down!

    1. admin says:

      Exactly:)

  3. Thanks so much for talking about this! I seriously don’t understand some people because it always makes me happy when I see my friends and acquaintances being happy and successful!

    1. admin says:

      Thank you! So true, love the positivity!

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